Today it is one of three major Internet sites about holy union, including Ave Maria Singles.com, which emphasizes Catholic courtship over dating, and Catholic where, according to its creators, 150,000 active users mix their search for love with some of the Gospel. Raphael.net, is a convenient site for self-identified Catholics who want to date and then marry other self-identified Catholics.
Brian Barcaro, one of the founders of Catholic Match.com, said that the seven faith questions are difficult and often controversial by design, but that asking these questions is critical to a successful Catholic relationship.“The questions are a good part of the vetting process,” Barcaro said.
And that will leave me plenty of time to focus on what needs to be done in the Church now, but nobody else is doing: Paying attention to single adult Catholics. (Have you ever gone to one of these and wondered “Is it even okay that I’m here? They can’t be expected to acknowledge what they don’t see. Why don’t you all go hang out in that room over there, and then maybe you’ll pair off and come out married, and then we’ll know what to do with you.” Not particularly helpful. The idea of these groups seems to have been to provide a “bridge” for the years between the youth group and the marriage prep class. Now I’m seeing more and more groups classify themselves as “18 to 40.” What? It basically says that during the years between 35 and the senior casino bus, you’re on your own. (Ask Brian Barcaro, who has been waiting for this column for far too long!
”) Even the population of a parish is determined by the number of families, which is why, I suspect, that so few single adults register in a parish. They certainly need all the help they can get these days, and I would never want to take away a single program that is designed to support them. They’re based on the assumption that there will be an upper age limit beyond which everyone will be married and will no longer need such a group. So, dear reader, at this point I’m guessing you fall into one of two camps. Thank God someone is acknowledging it.” Or you’re saying “Oh, no. ) Part of me wanted to start out on a very happy, positive note.
When Catholics do discuss it, they usually spend more time saying what you are not supposed to do, instead of what you are supposed to do.
Alternatively, they skip straight over meeting and dating to people who are already married.