High school sweethearts, we married a year after I graduated and by the time we separated we had three kids, ages 14, 11 and 9. Well, I hadn't been in any relationship except the one with my husband since I was 18. The truth is, finding people to date post-divorce may be more difficult. You will now need to consider not only whether or not your prospective partner is suitable for you, but also if said partner is suitable to co-parent. My advice is to pay attention to potential singles in the produce aisle, as right away, you know they're healthy. But, at some point your mortality is likely to catch up to you, and you will realize that you don't want to be alone forever.The day we sat on the sofa and broke the news, my daughter could only yell, "I high school! Therefore each first date becomes a sort of internally conducted interview for your future.Generally speaking, children are less enthusiastic about their parents' divorce than the parents themselves—and are also less-than enthusiastic about the prospect of any new partner in the picture.
" I actually had the good fortune of meeting my now-husband Matt in the 6th grade spelling bee when we were 11.
Leah Klungness, co-author of The Complete Single Mother, states that post-divorce dating can be stressful for children.
Don’t assume that kids will understand the need for a “crazy phase” of dating.
Beware of letting yourself think that finding a new spouse will make your family “whole” again.
Remarriage based on that agenda often has more “holes” than “wholes.” Keep in mind that children typically accept dad’s dating more than mom’s dating.