But since then, I’ve thought critically about it and changed my mind.
I could sit here and show you photos of conventionally attractive trans people.
Last night, many of us tuned in to OWN to watch Bill Duke‘s documentary, which examined colorism and the many ways it affects the lives of darker skinned Black folks in the diaspora, especially women.
I found the film to be riveting, especially during the parts in which young girls discussed how they identified with their skin color.
Having a physical preference when it comes to dating is NOT wrong, nor does it need to be policed by political correctness or ideologies of social fairness.
Both men and women have their own standards and ideals when it comes to superficiality and there’s NOTHING wrong with skin color being a part of that for them.
You’re probably noticing that this train of thought has a lot in common with the “born this way” argument for queerness. You are not oppressed for being called out on stereotyping others.
But I think that people are more than their genitals.To clarify, inclusionary racial preferences can be racist as well.I absolutely HATE having conversations about colorism and dating because too many people are too stupid to realize that there’s no such thing as a “right” preference. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. I hear it all too often: “I’m not racist, but I just wouldn’t date [insert race/ethnicity].” If you have to start a sentence with a clarification that you’re not racist, that’s a pretty good indicator that you need to reevaluate whatever you’re about to say.