Because let's be real, at the end of the day no one really knows what the hell they're doing.“Never kiss on the first date.”“Wait a x minutes before responding to a text message so not to seem too eager.”“Let him make the first move.”“Wait at least three days after your first date before following up.”“Wait (insert arbitrary amount of time here) before having sex.”“If he asks you out last minute that means his other plans fell through and you're a backup.”We have all heard some variation of these rules. If you and your partner are in disagreement, try to keep the details of that problem between the two of you.
However, I have news for you: When it comes to dating, other than, “no means no,” THERE ARE NO RULES! Constantly telling any and everyone about your dates and conversations is essentially spreading and tainting the organic energy of the relationship.
I really care about my clients, and have their best interests at heart.
High on the bestseller lists this week is a book called The Rules, a guide to dating and courting for women which effectively advocates that women, in order to snag a man, follow a sexist and manipulative dating game based on the principles of 50 years ago.
When I get a text that says "Just went on the best date ever! I get the opportunity to change people's lives for the better.
The process of actually finding your ideal partner can be even more of an arduous process challenge.
Especially when so many conflicting sources spew outlandish advice for dating. If you want to call the next day after a date DO IT!
This is why I have comprised a few anti-rules to dating. If you get asked out the day of for a date, you have no plans, and you actually want to see this person then why the f*ck not? #Live Your Life As a friend, I don't mind listening to relationship problems and offering a bit of advice, however the issue arises when it becomes an ongoing practice.
None of this is to say the "three day rule" is completely wrong; however, it should definitely not be followed dogmatically.
In February 1995, a new dating book hit shelves, claiming to offer "time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr.