It's not that your personal life doesn't exist; it does. Suddenly, you have all this time and energy to focus on your personal life.
It just doesn't get as much time or mental devotion as your professional life. Maybe you can even do things like date and be a good partner to somebody.
If someone were to ask you what you've done over the past decade, what would you say? If that's the case, you chose to pursue some crazy demanding career, the kind of career that demands to be in the center of attention in your life, much like an attention-deprived toddler.
My advice is if you find somebody who you love and who loves you, make it work, whatever it takes!
* men haven’t so much disappeared as, well, changed their tactics. They’re denied the opportunity to pursue, to go after the woman they reckon is perfect for them. “It’s created an imbalance that tips relationship power in the direction of the men.
They have 20934 single women lunging at them, 20-year-olds through to women in their 40s. The frenzy of women in their immediate orbit is too distracting. * BUT these men aren’t happy because they’re not being real men. Cos everything is out of whack (women are used to chasing things and get impatient when men don’t approach, but also because the men aren’t pursuing.. Because they don’t get to be the pea-hen, pursued and courted and desired. As an old guy who does yoga down the beach in the mornings at the same time as me said last week, “It’s like men and women today aren’t even seeing each other”. The upshot: we’re not pursued by men…we now do the pursuing, which tips the relationship power to men…which is not a good thing. The cold-hard truth is that women’s successes have left them with a small pool of similarly educated and financially stable men, they say.
Starting in their mid-30’s (20-somethings still could ditch their careers and settle with a man; at this point it’s too early to tell), these women start to realize that their child-bearing days are numbered, and everyone keeps asking them why they’re not married. This is the absolute worst time for an unsuspecting man to meet this type of woman.
Sure, they’ll go out on the weekends, but it’s not to meet a man worth keeping. Ds, MDs, pilots, real estate agents, fitness pros, accountants, pharmaceutical saleswomen, police women, and business owners.