However I met this guy over the weekend who seemed really into me. So I think I need to have the conversation with the guy I'm seeing Thursday to see if we're dating, and where it'll go ect... You could even say something like "better make me your girlfriend before I meet some other guy" if you want one of them to pick you, but it is best to just not mention the other guy. Don't lie about him--and if you get asked point blank about other guys, then remind him that you aren't a committed couple yet.
But I have no idea what to say or how to bring it up. Even after that, don't tell him that there is another guy, tell him there might be another guy.
Over the past few weeks in particular, I’ve had quite a few readers tell me that they’re dating multiple people, something I find exhausting just thinking about it, but at the same time rather fascinating because I find that people give me all sorts of reasons for they do it: I’m just experimenting with dating. Remember how you didn’t like it when Mr Unavailable had a narcissistic harem of women he was dipping in and out of for an ego stroke? It’s where you discover the facts that will help you determine whether you should green light, date some more and potentially move into a relationship, or whether you should red light and abort the mission.
Couldn’t you ‘experiment’ with one person for a few dates, see how it goes, and then move on? Do the people who you are dating know that you’re potentially wasting their time? As people no matter what they tell you, don’t always date for the same reasons, dating someone and getting to know them will let you determine through their actions and interactions (not just words and your imagination) whether you are two people on the same page with similar primary values.
He can't expect that you are only his when he has not made the same promise to you--but if you go out of your way to point out that he hasn't committed to you, then you may force him to decide something before he thought it through.
If you want a relationship based on something more real than promises, I wouldn't rush him into making any promises.
All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.
First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.
So I met this guy, and we've seen each other 3 times over 3 weeks, and the last time we saw each other it was a date.
I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.
There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.
Who said you have to go straight to a relationship? A couple of weeks ago I wrote about why dating is a discovery phase for fact finding.
I don’t want to get into a relationship too quickly?