Question: I’m currently in a long distance relationship.
We live in different countries and met on a dating site.
We tell each other “I love you” in every conversation but for me emails, phone calls, etc– aren’t enough anymore.
It hurts when I tell him I miss him and he tells me to live in the moment and enjoy what we have.
I had been confusing love and emotional attachment and I had no idea then what the difference was.
A common problem that occurs for singles is the experience of a relationship ending but the resulting feelings of emptiness and loss continuing for many months or longer.
As a result, I had never let myself be who I truly was when I was dating. And it was devastating to me when I wasn’t loved back.
My first love happened to be my first relationship, and for me, the end of the honeymoon phase sent me into fight or flight mode. So, like anyone who suffers anxiety and is trying to make a relationship work, I took it upon myself to go seek professional help for an hour at my college's mental health clinic.I should give him space when he's angry and not pressure him to do anything.I was paying an hour for a woman to tell me I should completely change who I am so my anxiety would subside. Maybe, if I gave him space, he wouldn't make excuses as to why he couldn't hang out during the weekend.We met in person for the first time last month and it was instant fireworks.Since meeting in person, our relationship has changed a lot; some of it is for the better but most of it for the worse.