Explore and encourage the long list of things they want to do, learn and create and all the things they love about life — beyond other people. This will help them remember what they have to live for when they get hurt. We're here for you when you're just starting out and need things to say, and we're here for you when things go south and you want to break up.
Some things don’t have to be shared with the whole world. Resiliency, self-respect, self-esteem, confidence, perseverance, and wisdom are the things to focus on instilling in your children, as these things will both help them to avoid pain and to recover from it quickly. Even more important than trying to avoid pain is helping our sons and daughters (and ourselves) to know that they are strong, capable, and powerful — and that they can overcome hurt.What breaks my heart is to hear young women and men think that their lives are over when someone breaks up with them or doesn’t love them in return.The music they listen to is full of codependent messages with variations on the theme, “I can’t live without you.”The truth is that they live without someone else.