It’s a balmy night in Manhattan’s financial district, and at a sports bar called Stout, everyone is Tindering.The tables are filled with young women and men who’ve been chasing money and deals on Wall Street all day, and now they’re out looking for hookups.Dr Wood works with men who have problems with internet pornography, including men who have been found guilty of downloading illegal images of children.‘There can be an escalation towards someone using more extreme and potentially illegal material the more online pornography is looked at,” she warns.IRL is synonymous with boring because there are no filters IRL.We're so into keeping up with our texts and likes, we don't know how to have relationships outside of them.The first thing that may have come to mind when reading this headline was, "What the heck is phubbing? The word is a newly minted Gen Y term (my money's on a new entry in Webster's by 2018).Similar to words like "bae," "Hundo P," and "FOMO," phubbing is an abbreviated hybrid of the words "phone" and "snubbing." Basically, it's a catchall term for when you pay attention to your phone instead of the person you're with.
It's tempting to tune in to something new, rather than feel monotonous or familiar with our partner."We're so accustomed to our social media habits that we've forgotten how to be present.How often do you share your favourite internet porn sites with your partner? ‘For some people, watching internet pornorgraphy can be a gateway to compulsive or illegal pornography use,’ says Dr Heather Wood, Consultant Adult Psychotherapist at London’s Portman Clinic. The three Downing Street armed officers arrested recently for allegedly sharing ‘images of an extreme sexual nature’ weren’t sexting them to their wives and girlfriends. By separating our use of porn from real life intimacy with a partner, we’re more likely to be carrying a bucket load of shame, self loathing or worse, according to psychologists.Everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening. “Ew, this guy has Dad bod,” a young woman says of a potential match, swiping left.Her friends smirk, not looking up.“Tinder sucks,” they say. At a booth in the back, three handsome twentysomething guys in button-downs are having beers.