But perhaps one of the most shocking things they do is give up dating for an entire year. All first year missionaries fast from romantic relationships for one year. FOCUS doesn’t ask its missionaries to fast from dating because dating in and of itself is bad, but rather FOCUS asks its missionaries to fast from dating because if we are not careful dating can become something we just have to have. “He is going to look so amazing standing next to me in the wedding dress I pinned on my Pinterest wedding board, but maybe I should change his boutonniere from a red rose to blue hydrangeas to match his eyes! And why am I going to suggest that you do the same? You vow never again to order anything of importance online and hop in line at the local coffee shop. Instead of you being in control of the espresso, the espresso was in control of you.It’s like we’re just not free to enjoy life unless we have a significant other. Below are just a few of the side effects of a dating fast.If you choose to take the fast on, you just might experience some of these yourself.1.Although I hid my true motives under the guise of self-discovery, I was really not dating because I had given up.I’m not the only woman who has bowed out of dating altogether.Being in love has as much to do with what happens inside you as what happens outside – your heart and mind are more open, you are in a heightened state of sensitivity; your imagination is in overdrive; your system is flooded with heady chemicals like dopamine and pleasure-giving endorphins.People who fall in love very easily can often feel all these things almost instantly when they are matched with someone because this is their natural state.
What Cronin was really getting to the heart of was a behavior that she’d been observing all around her on campus.All of these are perfectly normal reactions when you first meet someone you connect with and are nature’s way of laying the foundations for a healthy relationship to develop.For most people the feelings of falling in love are only triggered when they are matched, and reciprocated, by another person – then they are falling in love together and it is a wonderful, exhilarating experience.[Read: Love at first sight] There are people who break up once they’ve hit the five-month period just so they can keep the excitement alive.For some, being in a committed relationship is boring.