To be fair, many times, people will say this because it’s expected; a social nicety that’s supposed to ease the sting of a break-up that usually feels more like a sharp kick to your soul’s nuts.
But what if you legitimately to be friends afterwards? Just because you didn’t work out as lovers, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends – even Let’s start this off with some straight talk: you’re not going to be friends for a while.
But for the vast majority, this is simply not the case.
Since it’s not easy to determine if two people are compatible for marriage, it’s unlikely you will only date one person.
Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.
Most of the time, when you’ve broken up, it’s for a very good reason.
He was intentional — he called my dad, whom he had never met, and asked for permission to court me.The next week, I hosted a board game night and invited her so she could meet some of my friends.Over the course of our time together, we talked about plenty of our romantic and sexual preferences, but neither of us pressed for anything physical.Much like shopping for a car (OK, maybe nothing like that), dating can be a fun and terrible experience all wrapped into one.It would be great if it was a one-and-done type of thing—find someone to date and marriage bells ring, and life moves on.