Here’s a new article which I wrote as a special to Yahoo! And while I never write emails for others, the request makes perfect sense. ———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.Here is some helpful advice and a few valuable tips: 1) Be Different - Most Profiles Look Exactly the Same!
You might think that words like are nice things to say to someone, but no one wants to hear them.Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.Men who treat women as unique and interesting individuals stand a much greater shot of receiving a response. The most interesting tidbit in her profile is the thing that sounds like it couldn’t have been written by anybody else in the world. Whatever it is, take her quirky tidbit and turn it into your pickup line. The most effective way to catch someone’s attention in an initial email is with fiction. Because the truth, as we’ve established, is boring. But does any of that sound like a good pickup line to you? A good joke doesn’t require an explanation – it’s obviously a joke.90% of profiles feature the same cliche phrases like: "I'm a hard-working guy who is looking for a nice girl." "I enjoy hanging out with my friends." "I'm an easy-going, fun person." DON’T DO THIS!Although there's nothing inherently wrong with these sentences, you should avoid using them if possible, since so many other people have them on their profile.