Meeting the Parents: Be Patient Don’t expect to win over families at your first meeting.Long-standing attitudes and prejudices won’t be cast aside immediately just because you’re a great person.In part one, I conducted a experiment in which I looked at three parts.What drives people, what is the motivation and the trap.For many couples, this holiday season will mark an important relationship milestone.People will get engaged, go on first dates, celebrate weddings or anniversaries, decide to break-up, decide to re-commit. It can be an intimidating experience, even when meeting the most accepting of families.
Meeting the Parents: Talk First Before you meet your date’s parents — and/or before you introduce your parents to your date — talk about your families. Discuss your parents’ attitudes on interracial relationships, their individual roles within the family, and to what degree you value their opinions.
Substitute the belief that you have a good sense of humor with the idea that you are forgetful, snobby, overly-sensitive, or judgmental and you can see the problem of a sticky first impression. Make sure your significant other has primed his or her parents with hints of your many admirable traits.
This will help lay the groundwork for a positive impression.
Now we will look at the community aspect which includes families and spirituality.
The Family Many folks believe it’s impossible for anyone white or outside the nation to raise a black child.