In my haste to deal with some of the self-esteem issues this sister had, I skipped over her real question.
Within the year, social media, newsrooms, self-help books, Black television shows and films were ablaze with commentary that interrogated the increasing trend of never married, middle-class Black women.
I hate to say it, but every time a Black woman—or man for that matter—gets engaged to a member of another race or ethnicity, prejudice and racist folks alike come a stomping. But to outright judge a celebrity who you do not know…and frankly fellas, had a VERY small chance of snagging is just ridiculous.
I used to think that these types of sentiments were limited to White, Anglo Saxon individuals who grew up in minuscule towns, but as I mature, I’m learning that a “separate but equal” mentality thrives in America and beyond– regardless of your race—especially when it comes to love and marriage. Understand one thing: everyone has the power of CHOICE.
He wants to marry “someone who understands that Thanksgiving means collard greens, cornbread, peach cobbler and honey ham” or his need to have “somebody to watch with me.” The article was most helpful towards the end, in its exhortation to black men and our relationships with black women.
Dixon tells black men, “when you attack the Black woman, you attack yourself.