Greaves boldness earned him, what the filmmaker, Samuel Abrahams, described as “fun interaction that he would never had if he’d been sat at home swiping on his phone” Of course, we are not saying that there is anything wrong with online dating, however, like Tom greaves, his confidence in approaching people led to him having a date! To learn how you can do so in the right way, why not come along to one of our love Talk Live meetings, every Saturday at 7pm.
There’s no real argument as to whether online dating is better than offline dating, or vice versa, because the two aren’t mutually exclusive by any means.
In an age where the prominence of mobile devices means we’re “online” and able to communicate with others whenever we choose, Abrahams’ film aligns with an ever-increasing view that this readily available connection is only making us more disconnected to the physical world.
With my working life centred around the internet (I teach online journalism along with writing for Short of the Week & Directors Notes) it might seem somewhat detrimental for me to agree with this perspective – but it’s something I’ve given great consideration in recent times and it’s hard to really disagree with this analysis.
We recently posted an article about online dating fatigue and how people are deleting their dating apps out of frustration.
So if you are going cold-turkey with your dating apps and need a refresher course on how to meet people without relying on swiping, here are some tips from actual dating coaches Amy Van Doran and Sue Mandel, on how to meet people in real life. Go for activities that you genuinely enjoy to meet potential matches who like the same things as you.
Running clubs, intramural sports leagues, and improv classes are all activities that everyone could genuinely be passionate about. Or, step outside your interest zone just a tad, to create the potential to meet someone who doesn’t exactly share your interests.
If you want to date someone kind, try volunteering.
Ask for directions, ask someone if they have the time, JUST TALK! Practice “Power Posing” by assuming postures that reflect confidence.
Those seeking face-to-face connections can of course still find it, but it’s hard to deny that the availability of the internet is changing how we interact – and as a father, that’s something that I have to admit concerns me slightly.
As someone who has been in a relationship for well over a decade, the thought of single-life and the realities of the ever-changing dating scene are worlds as alien to me as those often dreamt up in the minds of the best science-fiction writers.
It’s possible to do both at the same time and give yourself the best chances of finding what you are looking for.
There are, however, some fundamental differences between online dating and offline dating.