They may go on to date women their own age, or to move to different places, but we stay friends. And then every so often, their relationships end, and they return to me. When lots of stamina (and blissfully short recovery periods) meets confidence and experience, it’s a terrific combination.
Some women tell me they’d feel too insecure about their bodies to sleep with someone young, but when you operate on the criterion I do — that they have to be nice — you meet younger men who appreciate everything about older women.
If you are still a doubting Thomas look at Hollywood stars who have made it work and look sexy: The legendary Tina Turner is 75 and her husband is 59; Gabriel Union is 42 and her husband Dwayne Wade is 33; Eva Mendez is 41 and her man Ryan Gosling is 34; Cameron Diaz is 43 and her husband rocker Benji Madden is 36. Dating younger men Further, like men discovered before us, there is a long list of reasons why they are often so eager to date and marry younger, reasons why every woman should at least try going younger, even if it just once. Just look at Jennifer Lopez, she is 46 but she looks 28 like her boyfriend.
The first and most important reason is that dating younger is the secret of youthfulness. A man in your age group will either make you look older or simply like your right age (boring), while marrying and older man will make you look way older.
"This is nothing compared to the long lines during the oil crisis," I say to my husband, Bronson, as he pulls into a particularly crowded Mobil station near the Holland Tunnel. Or could it be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman's not wanting anyone to think her date is her younger brother or, God help us, her son?
People were siphoning fuel from their neighbors' cars in the dead of night! She's older than he is, you know." Does our culture's collective discomfort with a reversal of the usual younger woman–older man dynamic come, as scientists suggest, from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct that drives women to choose the wiser, older, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck?
Women are now just dipping their fingers into this particular cookie jar that has been labelled a taboo for quite too long. I decided to take a walk on the wild side, and now I know why men are so obsessed with younger women. I look at him, stunned that he could forget such a big part of 1973. You'd really dig it." Or "Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins! We've been together for seven years now, and I'm so used to considering Bronson my peer that I often forget about our 13½-year age difference. In the beginning, if I wasn't thinking, Is he too young for me? someone else was thinking it for me—and blurting out, "Hey, have you seen How Stella Got Her Groove Back?Maybe women feel that because girls have a head start on maturity back in the seventh grade, our emotional and spiritual equals must forever be at least five years older than we are.Whatever part of the conventional wisdom they buy into, American women find it easy to summarily reject younger men. They could be denying themselves the most wonderful relationship of their lives.