But trying to work through a problem when you're tired and stressed won't get you anywhere, says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph D, psychologist and author of 2. In marriage, no-holds-barred honesty is not always the best policy.For example, "you don't need to share details of past relationships," says Bartlein.
Making your relationship top priority is better not just for you, but for your children, who need to see you in charge and who feel safer and more secure with parents who have a loving relationship. It's a myth that couples always sleep better and more cozily together than apart.
);spend every night in the same bed; and never, ever be bored. These and other so-called "rules" for marriage need some serious debunking.
And it's not just because rules your mother may have passed on are outdated; some may be downright damaging.
In fact, "breaking some marriage 'rules' may be the best thing you can do for your relationship," says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist and author of one come from?
Turns out, it may go as far back as the Bible, which advises not letting the sun go down on your anger.