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You must be willing to practice a bit before you master the art of dirty talk. You might want to try going a little bit out of your comfort zone, but not too far.
I remember when my boyfriend first asked me to talk dirty. Some of things I said are too embarrassing to admit right now. It took us some practice, but now we know how to really turn each other on with the right phrases! After all, you need to sound convincing and authentic when you talk dirty.
Sex can get kind of boring after a while if you're not trying something new.
"You could say, 'If I'm feeling pressured it works against me, but know that I'm OK. If not, drop the issue knowing you've at least mentioned it in a sensitive, supportive manner.4. "It doesn't matter how many sex partners each of you has had," points out Dr. "HPV and other bugs hitch a ride on human genitals, just as the common cold goes for your nose and throat." It's best to talk about this matter-of-factly before you have sex for the first time. "Many women prefer to assume exclusivity because they're afraid the guy won't agree to it." In that case, you should know and make an informed decision about whether to have sex. "You should both feel comfortable, perhaps in one of your homes or in a dimly lit lounge," says Puhn. It's better to talk about not wanting sex, but how do you say "no" without it sounding like "never"?
Try: "This is what I do for birth control" and "These are my standards for safe sex." "It's your body, and some conditions are forever—including unplanned offspring," adds Dr. "Just don't talk about it when either of you has had more than one drink."6. "Touch your mate, smile and suggest another time," says Puhn.
Also, choose a safe word, one unrelated to sex either of you can say to halt what's happening. It can be easy to move into patterns in a sexual relationship, "especially if a couple starts out with little sex information or strong opinions about what 'normal' sex is, leading them to reject many erotic options," says Dr. If your sexual playbook becomes staid, she suggests talking to a sex therapist or coach—or doing some reading. Failure to launch and premature party ending are touchy subjects.
To start the limits conversation, exchange one idea each about something you'd like to experience. Best case: There are two new options on your sexual menu," says Dr. "Some books, like , are made to be browsed together, giving you spicy ideas and info to boot," says Dr. "Most guys don't want to talk about it while in bed," says Joel D.