“But these men are not attracted to the men, they are attracted to the quick and easy sex that doesn’t involved social skills or getting to know one another.” Kort adds, “For many of these guys, they say it is opportunity for sexual release and they can engage in more kinky and fetish-type sexual acts that they cannot readily find amongst women.” Those who are partnered with a woman often feel that it doesn’t count as cheating “since it is with another man and not a woman,” he says. They only give you the gratification that a woman can’t.”Another respondent echoed that sentiment: “I also feel that a man can sexually gratify me in a way a woman never can. So having sex with a man is strictly for pleasure.”However, that pleasure is often restricted to the role of sexual aggressor.
A 2005 CDC report looked specifically at non-gay identified African-American and Latino men who have sex with men. Studies have found that among non-gay identified men who have sex with men, it is more common to receive oral sex and perform anal sex.
I assumed he was going to tell me he couldn’t make rent. “But what about all those girls you said you banged? The look on his face told me he wasn’t expecting that question. I rolled his answer around in my mouth for a minute. But truthfully, you come up in our conversations anyway. I’m not friends with anybody from the Westboro Baptist Church, so none of my buddies have anything outright malicious to say.
“I’ve got something I need to tell you,” he said, his voice shaky. “I understand if you want me to move out,” he continued. I wanted to let him know that I wasn’t disgusted, or angry, or whatever else he might think my silence implied. ” “He was a married guy.” I conjured an image of him, hunched over some guy whose poor wife was out of town. I sat friends down in my living room, ambushed buddies on a snowboarding trip, recruited wives to corner their husbands in their kitchens.
It’s a sensitive topic, given the too-common homophobic male assumption that gay men are attracted to and will hit on anyone with a penis.
Unsurprisingly, the answers we got back were as varied as the gentlemen we talked to.
I could tell he wanted me to say something; he looked like he was about to burst into flames. It was understood that I was not upset, that he would not have to pack, and that the details could work themselves out later. For this article, I gossiped with every straight man I know about gay guys.
In the few weeks immediately following his coming out, though, my other two roommates and I clucked like hens. You’re not like us, you have cooties, and we gossip.
Everybody knows that getting someone to get with you is just a game of manipulation.
And to prove that point, I, a gay male, am going to seduce several of my straight friends.” Do you think Pano will be successful?