i really have to stop myself treating people badly.
I even noticed today I was being rude to the cat about her belly when I fed her, might sound silly, but I'd never even talk to the cat like this before him!
An ideal relationship is one where there are two lines of open communication, where both feel safe to “be” and there are no “monsters” lurking under the radar.
One type of relationship monster is one that is born out of hurt feelings and/or anger that has decided to lurk in the shadows rather than come out; when your pain is not expressed.
I hate that I swear like him too now ugh so vulgar.
Individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to outside observers.
Typically, my husband would do something that would hurt me such as snap at me, road rage, tune me out, whatever.... Like I mention, I often fail to validate my own feelings.
Frankly, if you are the friend or family member of someone with BPD, it can be very hard to have a validating response to emotions that seem out of proportion with the situation.What are some of the consequences of holding in hurt/angry feelings?There are a number of reasons why people struggle with communicating difficult emotions.When you validate your teen’s feelings, it teaches them important life skills.They develop an understanding that all human emotions are acceptable and that they have choices about how to deal with those feelings.